I was on a run and was told the worst dating advice I had heard in a long time and I was very sad to hear that it still existed in Christian circles. The relationship had become hard, a challenge to see eye-to-eye and they were really struggling, and need peace. The average advice was, if the relationship got hard, then it is not meant to be and you should break up.
WHAT??!!
Is this what they know? All that they have been taught?
ALL relationships take work. Period.
You can not assume that something as beautiful as love in its complicated intricies, connections and mystery can just be created and maintain its self for life long enjoyment. It need to be nurtured, to be cared for so that it is sustained and grows.
So many people see work as a bad thing. As soon as work is needed in a relationship then it is assumed that it's not right. Wrong! As love grows and interweaves into the complexities of each individual, it slowly pulls them together and their messes become intangled. Each persons pains, flaws, inadequacies are revealed. All of those things in are messy. They require long conversations, maybe even gentle rebuke but most of all, a listening ear and a mind open to understanding.
So take heart brave one, and don't end something beautiful just because it requires work. Love grows in beauty with continuous nurture; talk often, be gentle and always be humble.
Love is always worth the effort.
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