English Class

Recently I have been back into books. I am currently immersed in the world of "The mortal Instruments" a series by Cassandra Clare. I have always loved fantasy with magic and fairies. My sister is actually the one who introduced me to first movie and that failed. Then they tried to make it a TV series on Netflix and if you ask me that is also a fail. If you can get past the bad acting then its not half bad. I still say that the books are better but most avid readers will always say that.


Books have always had a theme. Whether children, young adult or super dry literature, every piece has a point, a theme that the author is trying to communicate. That's what I learned from English class at least... but I think they were correct... although I was never a fan of that class. The themes that we always pointed out in English class were identity, love, rejection, love, acceptance, worth and other that I am definitely forgetting.

The theme of "The Mortal Instruments" Book 1-3 (one of them at least) is the lack of personal identity and lack of self worth. A character is unsure of who his father is and has never felt truly accepted by the family that adopted him.


**At this point in English class I would be required to create a thesis statement with 3 main points about how I believe these themes exist in the book. I passed English class, so I am done.**


The most interesting component about looking for themes within books is that our personal lives also always seem to be full of them. They are universal and parallel to the themes and ideas that we wrestle with in our own personal lives. Amazing how God uses books to show us again and again these themes that are often true of our own lives, something that we struggle with, that we lack. Many books try to resolve these themes through self love, finding acceptance in friends or finally entering that romantic relationship and the stories have happy ending.


In real life, the ones that we live, the resolution to those things that we wrestle with or lack does not come so easily. Temporary solutions might arise like the ones listed above but often I still feel that I am lacking, and the reason it feels like this is because it is true. Things of this world are only perfect for a time before the taint of sin exposes its self and shows these fillers are broken and are unable to completely satisfy that desire.


That is why I am so grateful for Jesus. He has created a space were I can enter into a relationship with him to permanently and completely satisfies the gaps, the things that are lacking because of who he is. I know that his love has no limits, no stipulations, no conditions, and endless forgiveness. All I need to do is believe that he does what he says he will.


Jesus is always pointing his creation back to himself, including these books, all I have to do is keep looking for him.

Moving Forward with Mindfulness

Back last year, (crazy to think that it was already a year ago) I took a break from my nursing degree and tried to pick of the pieces of my recked self. I never actually shared any of that progress here and it was my intention, so I thought that I would share some pieces of it now.

I did a couple of different things to help me get better and control my anxiety that had become overwhelming. These included counselling, a mindfulness workshop and lots of rest.

The mindfulness class that I did was through the collage that I attended and was recommended by the counselor that I was seeing. We met once a week for I believe 8 weeks each work learning and practicing different forms or mindfulness and meditation. We were encouraged to practice these on our own time and each week talk about what we had experienced over the week. I found that some of these techniques were very helpful and I continue to use them to this day.

The most helpful guided mediation I found can be found here.
I found this one the most helpful because it only takes 3 minutes and it helps to calm your mind and breath and brings the present moment into focus.

These are a few things that I took away from this class.

1. Being observant of my breath can help activate the parasympathetic nervous system and shut down the sympathetic fight/flight response.

2. Some really simple mediations that can help relax and focus my mind to help me continue with my day.

3. A good reminder that it is important to meditate on Gods word. The psalmist David talked about meditating on the book of the law (aka now the bible). This class encouraged me to take the time to sit and memorize and soak in one verse. I use the memory verse that the church is working on for that month.

4. Eating mindfully is hard but fun. Mindful eating is the idea of using all 5 of our senses to enjoy the food that we are eating. Slowing down can helped me to really enjoy the food and I have heard that when you eat slower you generally eat less.

Participating in this workshop provided me with some simple and helpful tools to help me focus during a really busy and stressful situation.  I can place my full attention into the current situation and allow my brain to focus and think on what needs to get done.

Body Systems Challenge

I have always enjoyed spending time at the gym. I enjoyed using the weight machines when I was in high school and working at the YMCA. In a lot ways it has become a stress reliever, especially running, just me and the sound of my breath as I push. I am excited for it to warm up again so I can start running outside again. 

In the meantime my friend Laura and I have been working through this Body systems challenge. Its 3 months of pre planned workouts that focus on losing weight and building muscle. We have almost complete 1 month of the program!  

What I love! 

1. That it is different every day, although each week we are working the same muscle groups, the program integrates a variety of different moves which makes it a lot less boring. 

2. I am learning new exercises that I can use after this program is done.

3. Working out with Laura is an awesome motivator and she is hilarious so I love that. 

4. Its working! I am seeing changes with the way I look. I have greater definition in my shoulders and biceps... aka I have guns! 

What I do not love...

1. I don't get to sleep in as much and miss my morning with my hubby. 

2. Sometimes the workout sessions are LONG LONG LONG! 

As you can see the Good stuff weigh out the non-love so Laura and I are sticking with it! I am excited to see what the final results are.




Those are my guns!

My swolemate Laura
Her before and after pics of since we started working out together

Problems are not problems before they occur

Life is like a ten-speed bicycle.
Most of us have gears we never use.
-Charles M. Schulz

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.
-Albert Einstein

Prepare for the worst, Hope for the Best
-unknown

It is important to always stay curious.
-unknown

Problems are not problems before they occur. After a problem has sprouted, it is indeed proper and prudent to address the problem. But to attend to a problem before it manifested as a problem is foolhardy. Refrain from attempting to present problems that are, at the moment, not existent.
-Donika K. Paul

It takes a strong person to get old.
-Aquafit lady

Freedom is what you do with what's been done to you.
-Jean -Paul Sartre

Trust and Stay

I got a putty cat for Christmas and she is pretty hilarious. She is really easily spooked and has very much attached to me and is tolerant of my husband. He likes the cat too and I am sad that she doesn't like him but we are talking about a cat.

Meli was a stray and then we adopted her from my mom’s friend. This friend had a lot of other animals in the house and Meli was the outcast. I think her past really affected her. I wouldn't be surprised if a male human abused her. It makes me sad.

Last night Meli was brave and ventured into our room and jumped onto our bed to chill with me for a bit. Jonathan came in after me and Meli stayed on the bed. I could tell she was scared but she still stayed there. Meli was scared but she trusted me so she stayed. I knew that Meli was safe and that Jonathan was just going to get into bed and pet her, but Meli didn't know.

This may sound silly but I learned a lesson from my cat last night. I realized that I need to trust God and stay where he has placed me. God is in control of my situation and I need to trust him. I have been hurt but he still loves me and will provide all the comfort and safety that I need to continue to stay in the place that he has asked me to live.

I have always struggled, and continue to struggle with trusting Jesus and finding refuge in him. But that is why I am taking time off, to re-ground myself in him so that I can live my life through his strength and with his peace.

Finally

Finally done. I have no ties to school that require me to complete an assignment, hand in a test, slave over homework or study for an exam. Finally I have rest. That is how I think, when there is school I cannot rest. I am always thinking about the things that I need to get done and even then sometimes I forget what I am supposed to do. I liked to keep myself uptight thinking that it would help me get things done. What really happened is it burnt me out. Completely and utterly.

Understanding that, I know have to ask and discover -- How to find rest among the business of life.

Its kind of ironic but I can remember driving home from... anywhere really... and thinking that being stressed was comfortable because it gave me the motivation to get my homework done. I thought of the stress as a good thing. In all reality though it made me irritable at my husband and drove many relationships away.

In some ways stress can be good, it can give us the motivation to get things done. I think what happened with me unfortunately is that the stress became to strong, became to much. -- Looking at it from a very basic anatomical perspective our brain is made of up of pathways, series of synapses that tell our bodies what to do. When stress occurs frequently that pathway becomes stronger making the reaction stronger. So my normal stress response is now in someways hyper active.

Now I need to learn ways to change that reaction, to change the pathway so I can change my response to stimulants around me like emails, school assignments, planning outings with friends and spending time with family.

The thing that I am really grateful for right now is that I have an oppertunity to rest and change my brain. The brain can rewire, I am not stuck with a hyper active pathway, I can chose to change and chose to rest. I also have a place that gives rest. I was reminded of a verse that says

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.

Matthew 11:28

I need to go to him and find rest.

Thus the Poop

In October 2013 I attended a ladies retreat that is hosted by my church. It was a about 2.5 months since living with my husband. I remember sitting with a few of the ladies and they asked how marriage was going and I remember crying and telling them it was "shit, absolute shit" …  (two of the ladies were pastors wives) … slightly awkward as I think back to that. In all reality though, it wasn't that it was "poop" my marriage was non-existent.

I was married July 20, 2013 and did not move in with my husband until early August. Shortly after that my mother-in-law moved in, and did not return to Indonesia, (where she lives with her husband when she is not in Canada), until end of September. I had met her two previous times, once at a lunch and then going on vacation with my husbands family to Cuba. August and September were extremely challenging. I remember spending a lot of those months crying in bed because I was so frustrated and confused about what my life looked liked at that time.

And then the retreat came…thus the poop. 

At that retreat, the speaker (one of the pastors wives mentioned above) focused her sessions around the the theme of "Friendship without Fear" and the concept of women wearing masks. In all reality I don't remember much else from that retreat other then what she was talking about I was not ready to handle nor did I really understand it. She talked about taking off our masks and understanding the second half of the gospel. 

We received a book at the end of the retreat called

Grace for the Good Girl 

By: Emily p. Freeman

… and it has been sitting on my nightstand ever since. 

Shortly after I got it, I read through the first half which was all about the masks, but never got to the good stuff, the God stuff.  I picked it up again just a few days ago and I has really helped to create a starting point. To slowly take off my masks and find a new hiding place. To find a place that already existed all along I just never thought to look, and never really wanted to find. To no longer associate my identity with those masks that never really fit. So here is where I begin, my life is hidden with Christ. 

For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God.Colossians 3:3.