Keep Showing Up

During one of the conversations I was having at the rock climbing gym I was talking about an event that I was helping out with the youth group at my church. My friend asked me "What is youth group?" I was honestly taken aback by the question because youth group was 'normal' to me... something that I always knew existed and assumed everyone else did too.

"So what do you do?" was his next question and it was hard to give an answer.

"...well, I just show up really; I show up each week and talk to them, I listen to them and I let them know that I am around. I am consistent and if they need to talk, or if they want me to pray for them then I am here."

Being asked that question made me reflect on my own experience of youth group and the influences that have led me to be the leader that I am today.

Jr. High leader Mike - Mike showed up every week and loved music. I have very fond memories of listening to Toby Mac Portable Sounds album on the way to an event. I also remember asking him about his life, about him getting married and having kids. I was so naïve then and was super surprised that he wasn't married. Well Mike is married now and my heart swells seeing him with his wife and kids. Mike taught me the importance of conversation - invite the youth into your life, share your interests.

Sr. High leader - I don't remember her name but I do remember that one day she just stopped showing up. I still remember the feeling of being disappointed - that she didn't give us notice or anything. As an introverted person myself it takes energy to build relationships and I wasted time connecting with her. This leader taught me the importance of being consistent, those youth notice when you are gone - keep showing up.

Sr. High leader Denise - I remember Denise as this intense, super awesome women that was vulnerable and willing to walk along side me regarding my faith. Some of the stories she shared about her life I still remember and call on. Denise taught me the importance of being vulnerable - my stories remind the youth that I am human too, my struggles and triumph remind them that they can get through it too.

My youth leaders Ministry of Presence impacted my life then and have influenced the way I lead now. Thank you for being an example and helping me pass on the lessons you taught me. I will keep talking, stay vulnerable and I promise to keep showing up.

*To anyone who doesn't know Youth group is a weekly gathering of youth  (gr.9-12) at the church - we eat food, hang out and talk about Jesus. We also do monthly events and go on retreats every so often too.